Monday, January 09, 2006


I am haunted by the woman's story.

I never met her, and even now cannot remember her name.

She was killed by her husband, a police officer. They were married in a Las Vegas wedding five weeks earlier. When she returned from her honeymoon, her body was covered with bruises. She admitted to her family that her husband was abusive. Ten days after the wedding, the woman had moved out. Then a few days ago, the husband convinced her to join him for a trip to Universal Studios in Orlando, which she did. They were going to talk about their relationship.

The woman left her parents' home at 10:30 AM.

At 3:30 PM, she called her mother and asked for help to get home.

Ten minutes later, the parents were in the car and beginning a 3 to 4 hour trip.

But even then it was too late. Five minutes after making the call, the woman had been killed by her husband, who then put the gun to his head and took his own life.

I did the woman's funeral because her mother's next door neighbor attends our church on rare occasions.

I happened to come across the "pastor's card" today -- when we do funerals, the funeral home gives the pastor a nice little card. It has the name of the person who died, lists some relatives, and gives a little bit of other information.

I'm saddened by the memory of this woman's life.

I'm saddened by the tragedy of her death.

I'm saddened that here was a valuable human being and for the life of me I cannot remember her name.


Blogger Angelique said...

John, how horrible. It's sad that a couple that held so much hope turned out so tragically. What's even sadder than forgetting this one woman's name is that there are more people like her who die prematurely at the hand of a loved one. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family.

7:52 PM  
Blogger Andy said...

My prayers go out to the couples' family and friends and to you.
Don't beat yourself up for forgetting her name but maybe when you have some quiet time at the office or in your sabbath spot, you can retrieve the card and say a prayer, naming her out loud or in your heart.
Maybe you can even preach about the importance of memory and naming the dead (See the movie "The Interpreter" for more)
Blessings in Christ,
Pastor Andy

5:46 PM  
Anonymous Faith K. said...

You may not remeber the name, but you haven't forgotten the brutality that ended her life, and that of her husband.

Let's all put in a prayer to God that we never become so angry, that we commit physical harm or mental harm to another being.

Just another Christian that had also gone through the pain of a husbands anger. Help me to prayer for Leon.

9:44 PM  

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